Adam let his wife be in charge and he did whatever she said, even when he knew that it was wrong, so, despite the fact that Adam had delegated leadership responsibility to his wife, God still held him accountable.
What is submission? Is it pretending that there's nothing wrong while you're being abused? No. No one should tolerate that. Submission is simply agreeing instead of arguing.
If the woman was cursed to take a passive role then, logically, that was because she had formerly been the active leader. This explains the natural tendency that women have of wanting to organize and direct.
Help can be both giving or receiving direction. Somewhere along the line the idea of helping and the role of subservience have been placed in an unequal yoke.
If the wife's role is to obey her husband and compliment him on how big his muscles are, then why did God need to carry out the rib removal operation?
If Adam and Eve had been equal before the curse then they should be equal after the curse, but they have a role reversal. The only conclusion that we can deduce is that before the curse, the woman was in charge.
A female analogue of man, made from the dust of the Earth, wouldn't be capable of inspiring him or giving him the motivation and guidance he needed to be able to rise above what he was and subdue the Earth.